First, by seeing that “doing something with your life” means much more than working.
Don’t think you absolutely need to make up your mind today, or that whatever you decide today is set in stone for the rest of your life.
What gets you out of bed in the morning? What puts you to sleep excited to see the following day? What inspires you? What do you do or think about that makes you feel like you’d be happy to do nothing else? What makes you feel proud? What makes you feel valued?
Whatever the answer is - and however long it takes to get to that answer - follow it. Don’t brush it off as being “stupid”. It’s not stupid if it means something to you. And it’s no one else’s business to impose their values on you.
If you’ve got an idea that you’re curious about but don’t have any solid knowledge of, keep it as an option. You’re drawn to it for a reason. You’ll either discover something you really love, or it’ll take you someplace else.
It’s okay to mess up on the way or to take other unrelated jobs to put food on the table. It’s almost never going to be a straight, clean path. You’re not sacrificing goals or values by wanting to eat and stay dry.
Anon from before, the word involve is very different from coddling. How are men going to learn to stop sexually abusing women if all we are doing is yelling at them? People don't learn from negativity, hating them is only hurting yourself, because you are not seeing the full potential of others, and situations. Men will only become more defensive if keep attacking them (as proven by some questions you've been asked, etc).
Dude, MEN STARTED ALL THIS SHIT.
This is NOT an accident.
They don’t oppress us because they’re ignorant and don’t know better. They do it because they benefit from it. They feign ignorance and promise they’ll change to waste your time, and then they keep doing what they always do.
Never once in history an oppressed class achieved anything by being nice and understanding to their oppressor. And women in general lack class conscience. Men are NOT on your side. They mostly want you to stop talking about your experience because it makes them uncomfortable.
Stop being nice to people who don’t even see you as fully human. Stop being a doormat. Stop codding your oppressor.
“It took a special kind of guts to be a fuck up as a woman, I thought. To say to hell with being the nice girl, the responsible one, the one who makes sure the man takes care of himself and eats properly and doesn’t take too many drugs. To be just as nihilistic and self-destructive as a man, knowing all along that you’ll get crucified for it, because somehow, the world will make everything your fault. He’ll be a martyr, and you’ll be a succubus. He’ll be a genius and you’ll be a groupie, He’ll be a hero, and you’ll be an ugly fat crack whore who deserves to die.”—Courtney Love (via fckrt)
"No labels" rhetoric isolates people from their community, history and culture. It keeps people from being able to articulate themselves and ask for what they need.It promotes a false sense of unity that only serves to further the dominant classes in society. It is a lazy way of getting out of understanding and digesting complex issues.I dislike this rhetoric and approach.
“A culture fixated on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty, it is an obsession about female obedience. Dieting is the most potent political sedative in women’s history.”—Naomi Wolf (via strawberry063)
“Do not try to be pretty. You weren’t meant to be pretty; you were meant to burn down the earth and graffiti the sky. Don’t let anyone ever simplify you to just “pretty.””—Things I Wish My Mother Had Taught Me | d.a.s (via ghostyoswin)